Common Misconception

                                 

                            Common Misconception

The common misconception between both male & female is to start when it comes to guys that all guys are the same in every way or manor.
Starting with the fact that men have been said to  only want sex , that is it , that men are a farm animal known as a pig in short that men are pigs...
And men are all the same, men are  cheaters, lie, etc...

Many of who say those who say those things are of course women yet that is not the true fact of all men at all.
Yes we know that there are those that will do things that they themselves know they  should not do but also so do many women even in today's day , age.

In fact in today's day , age many women are cheating on the man that they are with , that includes married to as well as dating seriously , those that are engaged.

And they are not telling the man that they claim to love , want to be with, when they are caught with the other guy they try to say that the other guy made her do it or forced her to or that they were just talking , many many many other false hoods that even the woman knows with in her that it is not really true but they try to get the man that again they claim to love , want to be with to believe the woman.

And how this writer knows that all too well is that this writer has gone through that that more then once with two  different women in his past that said that they would never do wrong in any way even emotionally.

And over the course of a few months or less then that this writer has found that of what they said that they would not do nothing but Lie's / untrue sayings , more.

It is almost as if society is trying  to turn the tables on the male gender due to the basic belief that many women have said about men that it may want to see if men would say that very same thing about women that again has been said about many males by many women starting from the 1980's-  as some sort of test.

Or it could be that in a chronological way or sense or what have you else  that it could be a way that women are able to teach men a lesson in a sort of pay back sense if you will for all the negative that the males have said , done to them.

Either way its is not the right way to go about it or any other thing its just putting the woman down where the men would be to the women that have said many of what this writer has mentioned in the beginning of this blog.

There is a much better way of solving or handling many things even when it comes to the gender wars in the emotional , physiological stand points/ matters.

Many of those involve talking with one another, taking the time to really see  for one each others sides ,view points , where the both sides both male , females, take the time to understand each other better , the more that both sides do this the less likely that either side will commit any negative , sinful acts such as cheating on each other  , more. 


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If & when that happens then the commonality of the ever popular  fast , wrongful judgments towards or against both genders .

The only way that can happen is if both sides make it that way , many can find that by  actually taking the time to talk with one another , actually hearing each others views, emotional points , more that can help both male , female understand where both are coming from  in many ways not only emotionally  also physiologically, with that they can become closer to one another even in a gradual sense or way.

And if that happens more , more  where they do talk with one another at various different points emotionally to start  then not only will both male , female become close as well as understand one another that would make it where many if not all relationships last longer then what has been shown even with the divorce rate in this country has been pretty high ,.at first surprising to say the least.

Currently its not as surprising because of the fact of the fast judgments , sayings about both genders to start.

That can change if, only if  the two genders do what has been said in this blog , if they need some help with that of how , what way is best for them to go about it they can talk it over with a therapist to start , many in relationships can go about to seek one that deals with marriages.

The reason of that choice  of a therapist is simple.

The reasons is that many relationship's are at times seen as a practice marriage in what prepares both the male & female for a real marriage, in many ways that is not wrong in viewing a relationship between a male , female that way , a real sense it is true that a relationship is seen that way , can be interrupted  as such also.

So seeing a marriage therapist is the best course of action to take if both sides see one another , would want one another to remain together even in marriage it can not be just the one side that wants that , yet the other side may not see it yet or know yet or even feel that way at any given point.

If at all that is the case then it can lead to an emotional break up or split , that can be way more then difficult , hard to deal with , handle for many if not all , with this it does not have to have a depending upon the type of person variable or stand point as many other things do.

That being said you may now realize that not only women take that situation , matter emotionally hard many males do as well.

The male takes it equally as hard but they express it differently then women do , it does not always lead to having sex with another woman just to rectify their emotions with in them.

Many of both genders have gone where it is known as  more then the over extreme , that has  been said more often when one takes his or her own life due to such of an emotional split or heart break yet in actual reality it does not solve a thing even though the person that is about to do such an action thinks that it would do if they were not around anymore.

In all actuality it would make things worse to start for the person that commits the action, it makes things worse for the loved ones in who are also the same ones that care for , about , love the person that is about to , or did the action of ending his or her own life with out taking the time to realize that there are many things that are positive emotionally to start , when it comes to relationships there is a saying that is known to tie in with this situation , that is ( There are still many fish in the  sea ) - Of course meaning that there are many more men , women out there that would not hurt the person emotionally , who would want to meet the person, get to know him or her.

With that said this writer more then understands why those that do not see that do not see that in actuality , that is because of the emotional pain that they feel so deep with in them that they are unable to see beyond that ,with that they do not know how to resurface to where they can see beyond that to where they can see the positive even as they are in the negative emotion at that point.

Even with that being more then a fact in reality there are ways to deal with that , that is to try , keep busy by doing any activities or hobbies that may interest the person & also going on outings or walks with friends or family, also seeing a therapist is another step to it , eventually the person should then be able to gradually rebuild him or herself with in , that would go to the next step of taking time with themselves by themselves, when it comes time to where they feel that they are emotionally willing , strong enough to try the well known  metaphor of playing the field of dating or the dating field but still take things one step at a time no matter what the urges may make them feel at any given point.

It is still better to take things slowly or gradually one step at a time or in another way of putting it being step by step.



 When that is done then the person being both male , female would then gradually feel more at ease , comfortable with themselves from with in to start, as time passes , when the person gets to know the other person more even as the other person gets to know the person  that once had that deep emotional heart break then, only then will the metaphorical shield can be , would be brought down gradually starting from with in the person , that can be done in the same way or manor with the person that is also getting to know the other person.

And the person that was about to commit that negative action that he or she was about to do at the one point they will eventually see that they will be happy , glad that they did not do the negative action.

So in all the only way to make sure that both male,female are happy , comfortable not only with in themselves , with the situation , the other person  they both must be willing to sit down with one another , talk with one another , as they do that they would gradually get to know more about the person , have a better understanding about the person , how they feel both emotionally , physiologically.

That would be a good , logical start to where not only all relationships , marriages last longer then what is seen , known to be at even this current century but also the century beyond this century.
That would also gradually make the well known divorce rate go down to where it would be nonexistent, that is one of many things to aim or reach for as well as many other things are to reach for that can , are viewed to be positive emotionally , physiologically.

Also this entire thing that is said in this blog can also work in a logical , positive way for those that have children from past or previous & current marriages, the common misconception of , about both male & female would  be nonexistent as well.


In addition: The other common misconception is that many women think that the world revolves around them to the extent that the woman says what she wants , she gets it , where the woman decides when that is okay for , when the guy gets what they want , this pertains   to when the woman , man are not together officially , at times they use it to the points of non-reality being that is not the way things work in reality at all, even when the two genders are in a relationship together to the again extent as long as the woman gets what she wants that is all that matters, that is not realistic no matter if the woman likes it or not , many others who go by that same mind set need to realize the same fact of that as well.

The same is said for , about the males out there that have the same type , basic mind set as the numbers of women that do .
If either side is to be truly happy even in a relationship or even be able to be in one things need to be equal for both the male & female where if the woman gets some thing then the male gets things as well , both have to be done with in reality basis , reason as well.


If they do not then they will remain single , alone til at any point , time that they actually realize that part of it , if at all they do realize it then & only then will they be able to be in a relationship with another , actually be truly , honestly happy along with that they must be not only honest , truthful to, with  themselves but also to , with the person that they are in the relationship with as well even before they start a relationship with the other person.    

This goes for both Males, females equally , in all reality, fairness.

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Relationships & More Blog

 http://www.societyreality.blogspot.com/2012/09/relationships-more.html

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http://www.societyreality.blogspot.com/2012/10/finding-one.html